How to give happiness and joy to your husband? This question arises in every married women’s mind. But before it first you should know some facts about the man.
The most beautiful image in the universe is that when a man is full of his sweat. He wipes the sweat from his forehead and again enjoys his work which makes his limbs groan with pain. He finds relief in stealing from fatigue. There is peace in fighting pain for him. His natural thought is to go out of his house and go to unknown places and show the essence of his hand to the whole world. With the same thought, he always feels happy.
All his life in the same grief that if my sweat flows and my wife can get relief from it. Then it is more than any wealth in the world for me. He does not complain about his grief. The purpose of life after marriage is to make his wife fall from the dripping of his sweat. In the same tune, he sometimes plays on his life to earn as much as possible. He worries that as soon as he steps on the doorstep of the house the queen of my dreams will be waiting for me. He wants her wife’s world to be filled with happiness. Such a concept of life begins when two ignorant people, a man, and a woman, get married. And then their world does not remain and their desires do not remain. Just walking for the wife becomes the purpose of life.
The pleasures of each other provide comfort. It is comforting to shower on each other. The wife becomes the queen of the house and the husband is happy in search of sustenance. In search of a dream house the thought of making a paradise, scattering the dust of the paths as the fulfillment of life.
Scattering oneself, using his strong body, reads the market to keep love alive. After earning he puts money in the hands of his wife. His heart is reluctant to give in. This thought that feeds on the happiness of the partner in the imagination by keeping the earnings in her hand. At that time his tiredness and his pain go away.
The famous Urdu writer Banu Qudsia says:
I felt helpless when my father was battling cancer and he was more concerned with what he had saved for his children. Now spending on his illness. And what will happen to us after them? I saw the man’s sacrifice. When I went shopping at the market and saw a family full of the stuff of shopping bags in their hands. And the wife was telling her husband that the purchase of me and the children were over. You also buy new slippers. His answer was no need. What day did I wear last year that must have gone bad? Do you see what else to take? I am with you now. Buy today.
I felt the man’s self-sacrifice when he brought something for his wife and children and also a gift for his mother and sister. I saw the man’s safety when he crossed the road with his family behind them. Put himself in front of the traffic. I saw the man’s seizure when his young daughter returned home. He hides his grief and hugged his daughter to his chest and said that he is still alive. But his tingling eyes and reddening eyes showed that He also wants to cry. But the phrase that a man never cries will not let him cry.
I am not agreeing with the last word of Banu Qudsia. Because even a man cries, he also lightens his burden by shedding tears but thinking that his spouse should not be sad. He sheds tears in solitude where no one to wipe. He wipes his tears with great anguish. Yes, it is another thing that he does not know how to shed tears. He does not want to say even if he is in pain.
If you want to give happiness and joy to your husband. Then remember the following advice which can make your life better and your home atmosphere like heaven.
Here are ten advices.
These ten pieces of advice contain things that are a beacon for women until the Day of Resurrection.
To give happiness and joy to your husband try to live a contented life, agreeing to the lentil bread that is found in the husband’s house. Which is mixed with the happiness of the husband is better than the red chicken. That he gave unwillingly at your insistence.
Always listen carefully to your husband’s words and give importance to him and try to follow the husband’s words in every situation. This way you will make a place in his heart. Because the work of a man is most notable than himself.
To give happiness and joy to your husband you should take care of your adornment and beauty in such a way that when he sees you with his eyes full. He will be happy with his choice and he should simply take care of the fragrance as much as he can and remember that your body. And let no odor of garment or any ugly form cause hatred and disgust in his heart.
The wife should beautify her eyes with gray and mascara to look good in the eyes of her husband. Because attractive eyes make the whole being appear in the eyes of the beholder, arranging bath and ablution. That it is the best fragrance and the best source of pleasure.
To give happiness and joy to your husband prepares the husband’s food ahead of time. Because the long-lasting hunger becomes like a blazing flame and creates a sense of comfort during the husband’s rest and sleep. When sleep is incomplete, anger and irritability are created in nature.
You should not allow anyone to come into your house without the permission of your husband. Take care of the husband’s house and his property and not to waste his property in nonsense like show off and fashion. Because the best care of the property is with good management. And the family is better protected by good judgment.
Keep your husband’s secret and not to disobey him. Because disobedience of a fearful person like him would add fuel to the fire. And if you could not hide his secret from others then your husband’s Confidence will be taken away from you. And then you will not be safe from its double sidedness.
When your husband is sad about something, do not express your happiness in front of him. It can increase your husband’s grief.
Do not bring the effects of grief on the face of the husband when he is happy. And do not complain to the husband about any of his behavior. Rejoice in your husband’s happiness, otherwise, you will be the one who will tear his heart out.
If you want to be respected in the eyes of your husband. Then take good care of his honor and respect and follow his wishes. And then you will find your husband will become your best friend in every moment of your life.
Until you beat your heart many times for his pleasure and will, and to keep your husband’s word. You have to suppress your likes and dislikes and many other desires. If you do not do this, happiness will not bloom in your life.
This is not the end of the story for the readers. Because there is a collection of books where the rights of everyone are explained. But it is another thing that the general rights of some are not known to some rights. Islam praises those whose obedience makes wives a great blessing of Allah for men.
The first right
The primary right of the hubby is that the wife ought to secure his respect and pride. Modesty is the best excellence of each man and lady. Be that as it may, it can particularly be known as a lady’s embellishment. The wife is respected by the husband. Her first duty is to protect it. A chaste and virtuous woman is the most precious asset in the world. No woman has the right to rob her husband of his honor.
The second right
The second right of the husband is that the wife should protect his property. She is the trustee of her husband’s property. A person can work outside the home in peace and contentment. Only when he is satisfied that his home and possessions are safe in his absence. Just as they are safe in his presence.
Who can protect the fruit’s hard work of the husband’s labor better than the wife? And who has the right estimate of the husband’s hard work and dedication and then in the protection of the husband’s property. There is also the interest of herself and his children. Which woman can harm herself and her children?
The third right
The third right of the husband is that the wife should take care of all the arrangements of her house and keep the house a model of paradise. With her good arrangement.
When wife budgets for her home, she is the finance minister of her state. And When she trains her children, she is like the Minister of Education. When she draws up an administrative code, she has the status of a law minister. No matter how she manages her house. Her status is no less than that of a minister in this small state.
A thoughtful woman feels as much happiness in a strategic destination as a minister of state feels at work.
The fourth right
The fourth right of the husband is that the wife should obey him. People with a sense of inferiority also consider this obedience to be slavery. But according to Islam, the concept of this obedience is to maintain the order of the family and the system.
The man is given status over the woman because of his natural abilities. The supervisor has been created. From an administrative point of view, however, supreme authority is necessary. The wife is the authority of the house and the husband is the supreme authority. It is not administrative, subjugated, and compelled. But has vast powers. The Supreme Authority has the right to intervene only when a matter falls out of the authority’s control. It is a slavish mentality to consider such a great authority as a slave.
On the other hand, the supreme authority of the husband does not mean that he takes advantage of it and oppresses. His wife and keeps her as a slave. The Qur’an al-Hakim uses the word “spouse” for wife and husband, which automatically includes the aspect of equality and equality.
Only Islam has given equal status and companionship to the wife. Before Islam, the word “woman” for wife included the aspect of the inferiority of the wife. But Islam gave her the word “wife” (wife spouse), not inferiority, but equality and equality. Aspect included. From an Islamic point of view, a wife is a spouse, not a slave.
Wives are not ready to make up for their husbands. As soon as the husband enters the house. The same dusty face, thick body, rotten clothes, dry hair, make a masculine voice, and says in anger, they must have forgotten to bring such and such thing. I know you don’t do a job properly, and so on.
Here the husband slowly begins to move away from his wife. Then he becomes more interested in mobile, television and friends than his wife. If there is the fear of God in faith and heart. Then he controls himself and sometimes faith is weak. When the fear of God is less, it becomes a relationship with women outside.
Everyone wants his wife to look young, fresh, and beautiful. Everyone wants his wife to talk romantically. But the answer from women is that it doesn’t happen after children. Who will take care of the children who will do the housework? In all these cases the condition of the person gets worse.
And then the result is that husbands are busy on their mobile phones, friends are busy. He doesn’t get distracted from office work, he comes home late.
If a woman keeps the atmosphere of her room romantic for her husband. Prepare yourself for your husband.
If you keep your voice soft while talking to your husband. Then the husband will find excuses from his office sooner rather than later to home.
Take care of cleanliness,
Keep yourself active,
Keep a glow in your eyes
Put a smile on your face
It is very important to use a comb and light fragrance in the hair. So that it does not get sweaty from outside and spoil the surrounding environment with the stench.
Don’t let the hair on your head get dry.
What to do if husband have a beard, if you have a beard, keep it tinted,
It is a clean shave. Keep your face clean from dust and sweat
Means wife also likes her husband young, beautiful, fresh and active.
The purpose of all this is to beautify each other. To be ready for each other, in the life of a husband and wife, it is very important. It increases love, boredom goes away, and the home environment remains beautiful.
That is why we must first change ourselves. Otherwise, the life you celebrate as a paradise becomes a source of anguish for man. When a man arrives home exhausted, his wife smiles at him. It can be the end of all fatigue, but it should not be a show. But it should be from the depths of the heart. Take her stuff in her hand and ask her with love.
If you take this advice, you will be the best woman in her eyes. Don’t let it happen that he hasn’t set foot in the house yet. And have fallen victim to the wrath of the housewife. Runaway from his day’s hard work to vent your anger on him. This would be the biggest nonsense. However, the wife does not give him the slightest respect, but makes him a practice board and tear him down from your sight. This will be the cause of mutual hatred and malice, the result of which is nothing but trouble.